Amour

[Lizzy Bennet]

Aw, thanks! And I do hope that she doesn't get hurt. If she's anything like the person I've known her to be for all these years, then she's smart enough to know that he isn't worth it. But, as Neo said earlier, when you love or like someone, you don't really listen to anything else.

Is this the same Neo who, in another thread, said if you love someone but they are away from you it's ok to date another girl and NOT tell your girlfriend? THAT Neo?? I'm really not trying to take the mick, Neo, but I will say I *am* glad my boyfriend whom I love a great deal and miss terribly--who I will be separated from for a total of five months (late August 2003 can't come soon enough!)--does not share your point of view!

Indeed, love is blind and blinding . . . but I agree, Blaise, no matter how blinding it can be, a lot of who the person is going into the situation and how 'experienced' they are with love makes a difference. Then again, sometimes not . . . sometimes, hard as it is, you really do have to experience things for yourself to see the truth of the matter. I hope she is alright, and as trite as it sounds (though, it *is* true!), "what does not kill you *does* make you stronger". I'm living proof of that.


~ Lizzy

[Neo]

Yes, I am the same; but hey if I am with the girl I love it doesn't matter I won't see her in a full year or more, I'd be faithful. Just the if she loves someone else I am not going to get stuck on her.

[Lizzy Bennet]

Let me make sure I have you right this time . . . you're saying, Neo, that if you love the girl and are serious, you would have no problem being faithful, but if the two of you were not in love, then it wouldn't matter? That's better, if that's what you mean . . . I still think if you're going to 'see other people' that's a decision two people have to come to honestly, without hiding things. But that's me. I'd be satisfied in knowing you didn't condone people in love cheating purely due to separation and hiding it! LOL

[Neo]

We are closer to what I mean, but not quite there.


Okay, if youlove someone, and you are with this someoe, then ypu have to be totally faithfull. If you are in a relationship with simeone you don't love, you still have to be faith full. If you love some, but this someone is in a relationship with someelse, then you could be with someelse.

[Lizzy Bennet]

We are closer to what I mean, but not quite there.


Okay, if youlove someone, and you are with this someoe, then ypu have to be totally faithfull. If you are in a relationship with simeone you don't love, you still have to be faith full. If you love some, but this someone is in a relationship with someelse, then you could be with someelse.

Not to get totally off-topic (too late! ), but I hope that you're not inferring that you, Neo, have been cheated on. What a horrible feeling I can imagine that to be! I'd say if someone has broken that trust, that while two wrongs don't make a right, I certainly think it calls for reexamining the relationship together, possibly splitting up to see other people. That's truly a shame...no wonder 1 in every 2 marriages ends in divorce.

[Neo]

I wasn't cheated, but one time this girl (the one I felt in love with) broke up with me, and like a month later we had to go to a school trip to NY, and she had a new boyfriend by that time that also came to the trip; those 5 days were really annoying, hope noone has to be in a similar situation.

[Mint]

Oh, that would ruin anybody's trip.

Never happen to me, but I can imagine!

[Lizzy Bennet]

I wasn't cheated, but one time this girl (the one I felt in love with) broke up with me, and like a month later we had to go to a school trip to NY, and she had a new boyfriend by that time that also came to the trip; those 5 days were really annoying, hope noone has to be in a similar situation.

Gosh, that's awful ...to just be replaced like that and then have it shoved under your nose (unintentionally or not!). I'm really sorry, Neo...I can't say I've been in that situation before, but it doesn't take a lot to imagine how much it must suck.

[Blaise Zabini]

Aw, Neo, I'm so sorry. It does suck, and there's no denying that. You just need to realise that she wasn't the one for you. It was no fault of your own that she did what she did, just her own selfish-ness and disregard for your feeling for her. If she did this to you, then she isn't worth the time you spent being sad and wishing you had her back.