Not an Addict

[Devinci]

I need some, personal advice.

I have a friend, a dear friend who means the world to me. He's a great guy with a wonderful life ahead of him...but, he's been partaking in certain activities that, I feel, hinder the better side of him.

He experiements with drugs a lot. And I have nothing wrong with expirimentation, but he just, keep experimenting. Everytime I see him, he's under the influence of something new. And something harder. And it's really starting to scare the shite out of me. but everytime I tell him, he just sees me as "Another one of the girls trying to play mom..."
Besides beating the cr*p out of him, I can't figure out what to do...he's killing himself, and that my friends, sucks....

[AccioNiffler]

Sometimes the only way to make someone realize how much they are screwing up there life is to tell other people who can help him. You know, its like it might seem like tattling, and he'll probably be really angry with you at first, but if you dont do anything at all how would you feel if something bad happened to me. Maybe you could just tell him that if he doesnt straighten up that you'll have to tell his mom or something (not to sound all corny or anything), and hopefully he'll listen to you.

I wish that I could give you some better advice but I hope everything works out alright in the end--I'm sure it will, things have a way of working themselves out

[gecko]

I had a friend who kept experimenting with drugs. And I have nothing against that, it's his decision to do so after all. Luckily, he knew and knows the dangers of becoming addicted to those things, and the dangers of using them. He has stopped using harddrugs, and he himselfs feels better with it.

Now I realize, that what I just said won't help you much, but maybe you should try and explain your friend that using something harder everytime is going to wreck him, because after a while, using drugs that aren't as strong, won't give him his much pleasure. Then, to get that, he must use hard(er)drugs and more of them. That's the danger part of it. Not to mention the negative physical effects on one's body.

You should, I think, let him know how you feel about the situation as it is, and that you are uncomfortable with it. If he is a real friend, he should listen to what you have to say, and only then make up his mind, not before you have said anything worthwile about it.

I wish you all the luck in the world to handle this..

[han lin]

my friend is hooked on chemicals and wont get off them. all her friends have tried to reason with her but she wouldn't listen.

only when one of her 'drug' friends got as bad as her did she wake up to herself. she was so worried about her friend, we were all like thats the same as you.

she has cut down alot now and i hope she will get off them totally soon


i can really relate to your situation and i know its hard to keep mentioning it, because the friend gets angry or irritated or just stops listening.

just stick at it, when your friend wakes up and sees what a mess he is in, he will need good friends around him to support him through.

[Gryffindor Student]

I think that you should tell him how much you care for him and tell him you are NOT trying to play 'mom' you are trying to save a dear friends life. And if he trusts you he will believe you. Always encourage him to do things that will keep him clean. Does he know anyting about HOW BAD these drugs are hurting him. If not tell him, if he does, REMIND HIM! Repition is one of the best ways of education. Also tell him you care about him and you want him to lead a drug-free life. Tell him EXACTLY what you told US. And dont sound demandng when you do. It will seen like you are forcing him to stop. Maybe secretly you are, but make him think that you are trying to PERSUADE him to stop 'experimenting.' Dont try and pressure him into anything to fast or too soon, he will just rebell and do more of what you dont want him to do. This is the best advice i can give for now. I hope it helps.

Always Trying To Help In Anyway I Can..
Gryffindor Student

[Devinci]

Thank you guys so much! I'm going to talk to him tomorrow, to, explain how I feel in the best way I can. I hope things turn out okay, for his sake more than mine...but, my sake IS in there...*sigh at my ethical egoism* But thank you all

[Violet]

I have friends who do various drugs, and while i wish there was something i could do stop them all you can do is keep trying to tell them not to.
It is something that people have to realise isn't good for them themselves before you can really do much i'm afraid. just be there for them as much as you can be.
Sorry i'm not much help on the matter