Jerk

[Athena Appleton]

I know this is an old post, but.... I have nothing better to do right now

If it makes you feel any better, my sister dated an absolute jerk all through high school. Her friends couldn't stand him. My family hated him. He was controlling, rude, selfish and just treated her bad in general.

When she was a senior, she was told for the first time in years, by her English teacher, that she is really smart and talented, as well as pretty (she's gorgeous... makes me sick ). She finally got up enough guts to tell her boyfriend that if he didn't start respecting her and being a nicer guy in general, they'd break up. Things were rocky for a while, but now he's my brother-in-law, and he's the coolest.

Yeah, that's the rare story, but it gives you hope.

Other than that, I hate to say it on a board so inhabited by teenagers, but most of the feelings and the friendships you have right now will most likely be non-existant in a few years, so who she's dating right now is really of little importance, since it's HIGHLY likely it's not a forever thing.

Stay friends with her, even if she backs away from you... be there for her if/when she needs you.

Also, try to think of it this way. He thinks you're annoying and rude. You think he's annoying and rude. Don't sink to his level.

[Alice I]

There is a possibility that you may want to look at:

Are any of these women finding themselves in cycles of dating one bad choice after another? My grandmother went from one bad marraige to another. In her case the men were abusive physically as well as mentally and it sounds like at lease one of these guys is mentally abusive to the women in their lives.
Sometimes women are drawn to guys like this because of circumatances in their growing up years. If a guy is a jerk it may seem normal to the woman because that is all she has ever seen in the adult male role models in her life. (No I am not accusing anyone of having a poor father)
It's just a thought. If the woman you are concerned about seems to be in this kind of cycle it is very hard to break, and she must do that for herself.

If the girl is your friend I honestly believe that you should tell her your concerns.